ABC Skill: Build Mastery

Building Mastery is our "B" in the ABC Skill. This step happens after we have accumulated our positive emotions and before we cope ahead. Once we have worked on some projects and figured out what we like to do, we can start to become more skilled in it to build confidence and increase our self-esteem. … Continue reading ABC Skill: Build Mastery

ABC Skill: Accumulate Positive Emotions

In a past post, we learned about the difference between the emotional, rational, and wise minds. The emotional mind can overwhelm our thoughts and decision making. This can make it more difficult to align our actions with our values. Our rational minds can lead us to become more robotic with our thinking and lead to … Continue reading ABC Skill: Accumulate Positive Emotions

Fair Fighting Rules for Couples

Disagreements are always going to happen within couples. Sometimes if feels like we really need a referee to get us through some conflicts! It's important to work through these situations in a healthy way to make sure each person is heard and understood. Here are some Fair Fighting guidelines you can use to make sure … Continue reading Fair Fighting Rules for Couples

Using your Body to Accept Reality

The body and mind are connected and influence each other which can effect your feelings and emotions. Think of a time when you are stressed at work and start to get a headache or muscle aches. This may make you feel more stressed and out of control because it interferes with your work performance or … Continue reading Using your Body to Accept Reality

Using Imagery to Find Peace and Reduce Stress

Have you ever been stressed out and imagined yourself relaxing on an empty beach in the warm sun with no cares in the world? Maybe it's an all-inclusive resort with all food and activities included! Now I'm getting ahead of myself... Using imagery is an easy way to think of a person, place, or time … Continue reading Using Imagery to Find Peace and Reduce Stress

Improve your Relationships with THINK

Interpersonal skills are part of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and a great way to work on improving relationships, developing healthy communication, and ending conflicts and arguments. The THINK skill breaks this down and can be used during difficult situations in relationships with co-workers, friends, family, and acquaintances. T - Think: Take a step back from … Continue reading Improve your Relationships with THINK

Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) is a great tool for reducing tension in your body and mind. By tensing and relaxing muscles, you are signaling to your brain feelings of relaxation. You can focus on the present moment and work on body awareness. This can be done by following a script or watching a video to … Continue reading Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Finding Meaning in Suffering

Life can be hard and have difficult moments. Our perspective on a situation can change the way we feel about it and ourselves. Do we want to have shorter pain or longer suffering? This depends partly on how we view and react to a situation. Can we use the lemons life gave us to make … Continue reading Finding Meaning in Suffering

It’s Opposite Day!

When we feel emotions like anger, anxiety, and sadness, our instincts will tell us to act a certain way. For example, when you are feeling depressed you may want to isolate yourself and be alone (different than me-time which is enjoying healthy time alone). It may be tempting to stay in bed and sleep the … Continue reading It’s Opposite Day!

How to Set SMART Goals

As you are getting to know yourself and becoming more self-aware, recognize what you would like to improve. Set small, achievable goals. We can't make huge changes overnight, but taking small steps is more realistic and leads to goal achievement. Reward yourself for your small milestones. Make your goals SMART! S - Specific: Make your … Continue reading How to Set SMART Goals