Anger is an emotion common in everyone who has ever lived and one of the most difficult to control. Managing your anger at times can feel impossible, so I’m here to outline some ways to find control over it with anger management skills. While it can cause us some frustration and unhappiness on occasion, allowing it too often can overtake lives (this is why suppressing our emotions isn’t healthy). Luckily though, there are four proven ways we can improve how we handle angry situations.
4 Anger Management Techniques
Get Some Exercise
Exercise is one of the absolute best ways to improve anger management. Not only can it help reduce stress, but exercise has been proven in numerous studies over and again as a very effective way to release endorphins which make us feel good about ourselves.
Don’t Hold Grudges
Keep in mind that the negative emotions you feel when angry isn’t only associated with your anger and any negative feelings towards anyone else. If someone wrongs you and it makes you mad – be kind to yourself because if this person turned their anger inward all on themselves, they wouldn’t have feelings of revenge or hatred towards others either, right?
Identify Possible Solutions
Once you’ve addressed your anger and managed it, the last thing to do is look at ways that maybe fix things in a better way. What can be done differently to make both people (yourself included) happier? Can restitution be made, or am I just being too harsh on myself? People handle conflict differently across the board, so check where someone may see their problem as hard work versus something they have no control over.
Take a Timeout
Stay calm, act how you would normally. If someone upsets you – start applying the thought process when they shouldn’t see any problems (you don’t wish to anger them). Rather than getting angry at what they have done, your goal here is to learn that in this situation, someone with a problem, rather than being angry towards them, will be coming out of it having learned something important.
In the end, remember that anger is a “surface emotion”. What is really lying beneath your anger? Feelings of disappointment, sadness, embarrassment, and loneliness are some of the emotions that anger can mask. Get in touch on how you are really feeling and treat those emotions ultimately. Check out the anger iceberg below as an example of what lies beneath your anger.
What are some ways that you manage your anger? Comment below!